Adoption or surrogacy — two sides of infertility coin

Adoption of foreign child or woman who agrees to give birth to your own – these are two variants infertile couples think about in order to have a family. Nevertheless it seems surrogate motherhood gains the upper hand. How comes it? Let us get all this straightened out.

Deciding to adopt an abandoned child in orphanage parents realize this child can have health problems, questionable genetic inheritance, and in general the adaptation period in a new family can be rather complicated. Moreover all these aspects are rather unpredictable and as a result can cause unpleasant surprises in future.

Surrogate motherhood is a medical program that has become extremely popular all over the world. Thousands of infertile couples go to countries where surrogacy is permitted by the local law and conducted it without any difficulties. In the surrogacy case everything is almost naturally. In particular, surrogate mother only bears a child and has no biological connection with him. Genetically surrogate child is related with the couple for whom surrogate mother bears him. After baby’s birth, family has the right to be with him from the first day of his life, and surrogate mother has no contact with the newborn. From the first days of life baby knows and feels his parents who form him by care.

While in the case of adoption, it’s extremely difficult and even not always possible to adopt a newborn in Europe. Many foreign couples go to Ukraine or Russia in order to adopt a newborn child. According to the statistics citizens of Spain, Italy, Israel, France and the United States most often adopt just Ukrainian children. A great number of representatives of these states go to Ukraine for surrogacy as well. This country is the most surrogacy friendly one! In the case of surrogate motherhood woman who bears a child for infertile couple write an official denial (it means she has no rights and obligations concerning this baby) and gives biological parents their baby after birth. They choose a name for him; draw up documents in which they are listed as child’s parents.

People who are on the edge of adopting a baby usually cause a great respect and support of the community unlike surrogate motherhood, which sticks pins and hot debates and is considered to be rather  immoral decision. Church is the main opponent of surrogacy. But delving deeper into the history, we see the Old Testament describes one of the surrogacy stories. Thus wife of Abraham, Sarah, was infertile. That’s why she invited her maid and asked her to conceive and give birth to their child. In Biblical times it was believed if a woman couldn’t have a baby she was able to pass maid this mission.

Adoption and surrogacy – two sides of one coin called «infertility». Adopting a child infertile couples know — he could be from a family of alcoholics, drug addict, persons living with HIV, AIDS virus or genetic diseases, from a family with negative history and bad habits. This child has already had a certain history and previous vision of the family. Surrogate child will be genetically related with the couple. Conducting the IVF procedure, embryologist selects the highest quality and healthy cells. At the programs’ end couple receives all necessary documents, in which will be written black and white that they are parents.

Today, surrogacy is the main alternative to adoption. Despite the worldwide condemnation, surrogacy and «test-tube babies» gain serious speed and are rather hot among infertile couples all over the world. Although, no matter what, at the end there are words by one author: «Each of us has his own difficulties, its measure and methods to overcome. Unnecessary comparisons are not needed”.